i just want to update, that i discovred the source of the problem and got it to work, for other people who are facing the same problem
the proplem was that my iphone had the latest system update 11.4.1, while apparently xcode or gamemaker (don't know which one) can only export up to ios 11.4.0
now the work around for me to solve this problem was in game maker i didn't target my phone when exporting the game to xcode, but a virtual iphone (which game maker provide it to you automatically)
and when the game is exported to xcode successfully, then i attach my phone and target my phone in xcode, clicking play, the game is transferred and installed on my phone without problems