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I am not sure but I think you meant to say “bold” not “bald”, correct me if I am wrong though.
So... is this topic still about relationship advice or about how to prevent a girl from being harassed?
u must be pretty then, any1 wuld love u.So... is this topic still about relationship advice or about how to prevent a girl from being harassed?
Either way, allow me to share some of my experiences regarding one of the things that were addressed in the first post: Looking at people. Maybe you'll find it helpful or applicable to your situation. I've done this quite a few times and the results were quite varied according to my personal experience with it. Usually, I did it to make it seem like I'm not self-absorbed and living in my thoughts instead of reality. Sometimes, it even made it look like I'm paying attention to my surroundings if I happened to look at someone who was talking to me or addressing me as part of a group. The risk of accidentally suggesting interest in any particular person you look at is an ever-present threat, though.
When I was at a mental hospital, something like this actually happened to me. There was this guy - I think he was often trying to get my attention and just got ignored - whom I randomly looked at during breakfast, following my usual motivations behind doing so, and it prompted him to jump up from his chair and yell "I LOVE YOU BABY, BOOM BOOM BOOM!" halfway across the room while clearly addressing me based on whom he was looking at. He was told to sit down again by a caretaker. No restraining orders were filed against him despite my complaints about unsolicited conversation initiation. I'm glad we didn't share a room - I'm afraid he would have talked to me again after that. This incident has taught me to be careful when looking at people, though - you never know what to expect. They might just think you want to talk to them, or even anything more than that. How absurd...
How about we tell you when you're right? It'll be much less work.
Why or how or in what country would initiating a conversation unsolicited get a restraining order?
Also, aren't all initiated conversations unsolicited by definition? How does a conversation start unless one person talks first?
Getting hit on by a mental case that would probably settle for anyone (or anything) due to his innate tendency to scare off whoever he looks at immediately is definitely not on my list of dating achievements, the cause thereof also not being something I would attribute to any part related to myself. Sorry to disappoint.u must be pretty then, any1 wuld love u.
I'll just ban you myself, who needs Noc?
Probably Germany. Just about anything is illegal over here if you twist the laws just right. (Just about anything is legal if you twist them the other way, too.)
In the style of the German Bureaucratic Republic, you'd probably have to fill out an application form first (then wait four weeks for a rejection, lodge an objection, wait four more weeks, take it to court, and if you pay your lawyer more than they pay theirs, you will win and can talk to the person).
lets love each other, lov makes the world spinGetting hit on by a mental case that would probably settle for anyone (or anything) due to his innate tendency to scare off whoever he looks at immediately is definitely not on my list of dating achievements, the cause thereof also not being something I would attribute to any part related to myself. Sorry to disappoint.
I'll just ban you myself, who needs Noc?
Probably Germany. Just about anything is illegal over here if you twist the laws just right. (Just about anything is legal if you twist them the other way, too.)
That aside, a quick Google search led me to this: http://www.theregister.co.uk/2010/08/18/mall_talk/
So... while you won't get a restraining order, it might get you arrested in a certain mall in...
... California. No further questions.
In the style of the German Bureaucratic Republic, you'd probably have to fill out an application form first (then wait four weeks for a rejection, lodge an objection, wait four more weeks, take it to court, and if you pay your lawyer more than they pay theirs, you will win and can talk to the person).
One might argue that this is also a form of conversation, but unlike verbal conversation, it is possible to dismiss written conversation by not opening letters you receive and thus not partake in conversation by reading - unlike verbal conversation, which is impossible to not hear, provided that the unsolicited conversational partner's unsolicited conversation starting utterance is audible under the circumstances you and your unsolicited conversation starting utterance-emitting unsolicited conversational partner are in.
Unlike talking to someone, delivering a letter to a mailbox is also a rather passive way of initiating conversation, entirely leaving the decision up to the recipient - if they are not interested in conversation, they are not obliged to even check their mailbox, let alone take the letter out, or even open it, or *gasp* read it.
@Cantavanda If talking to the person you wish to talk to is not a feasible option for you, maybe you could write them a letter. The benefits of doing so are widespread, including but not limited to your ability to think about what to write and, if necessary, change what you wrote or start over without your conversational partner having read what you had written before, as well as their ability to ignore the conversation attempt by not reading the letter, as illustrated above.
Be careful not to end up stalking them to find out their address, though. Also don't put the letter into their bag when they're not looking, this might make you look like a thief or creep or both.
Giving the letter to them directly also seems risky, as it can be seen as direct conversation initiation and thus bears all the risks of it, as well as the risk of the recipient starting to read the letter while you're still there, which in turn has a plethora of other associated risks.
heheSpeaking of 'girl advice', she just told you in very careful terms to FO.lets love each other, lov makes the world spin
havin a lover in the mods gives me +1 power points in the GMC and i can ban noc instead
umad bro
He could have made good use of the advice provided in this topic so far.I didn't. Yet. The "mental case" was referring to the dude from the previous story.
Oh I see. It was in reply to @blacklemon so I thought it was a reaction to his relentless one-directional courting attempts.I didn't. Yet. The "mental case" was referring to the dude from the previous story.
Thanks for the idea, though. I will phrase my next few upcoming rejections that way.
I don't care which way you want me to take it. I never will, either way.
Rejecting people immediately seems to have this annoying side effect of making them think I'm "playing hard to get" or something silly like that. It's like they don't even consider the possibility that I might just flat out not be interested in them, never was and never will be. I personally find it both funnier and more effective to remain passive and drag it out for a while, making them think they have a chance, only to end up giving them the brush-off with style a while later after all. The results tend to be hilarious and permanently destroy their hopes of having a chance with me.
This
Also this, in the case of my fiancee, a mutual friend brought her round to play games with us (my house, at that time, was something of a social hub - Mario Kart, smoking, watching football etc).
i simply want to use you, in return i will keep you company when your lonely
fair deal.
... and sometimes it gives me quotes for No Context.
Keep it up. Proud of you.
Anything you feel like writing except for "I LOVE YOU BABY, BOOM BOOM BOOM".
Saying sorry is a good start - maybe not specifically for misgendering her, but for your behavior during the past few days in general. If you say that you're sorry about one particular thing, keep in mind that she may interpret it to mean that you are not sorry for everything else you've done that she found unpleasant. This is a situation you absolutely don't want to end in, as it will just make you seem more uncouth than you already are.
I'd drop the shoelace thing. It's not like you stole hers, right? Besides, without stalking her (or her shoelaces, which I doubt you will encounter without her, unless you are being a creep and breaking into her home where she takes them off) further, it might be very hard to find shoelaces that will fit just right. Girls tend to be very finicky about length and width of such things, as they might not fit in the holes correctly or tightly enough otherwise, which would turn a well-meant gift into nothing but a ticking trip trap of potentially-unwinding too-short-or-long too-wide-or-slim shoelaces. She knows the holes best, so let her take care of them on her own.
In terms of activities involving you and another girl, eating is best left to a time where you and her have grown close enough so that both parties don't mind the other one being around, especially regarding the "out" variant of said activity.
While a part of this may be in good will, keep in mind that you may come off as pretentious if you do this too much or at the wrong time. I suggest holding back with this for the most part and offering help in moments where she may appreciate it, for example if she mentions that she's stuck on an assignment. This, of course, requires her to be willing to talk to you and sit next to you in the first place, so this is more like something to keep in mind for the (distant?) future.
I can only speak out of experience here, but I personally don't like being analyzed, or anything that starts with the same letters. The same goes for another word in this sentence. Don't do this without her permission, don't ask her for permission because it's definitely creepy no matter the circumstances... therefore, don't do this.
Yes. Anything but English, really.
